Saturday, March 12, 2005

The Courtship

I think that a man is--like-- courting me or something. What ever happened to the good old days when you just shagged someone after a few beers? oh wait,..those weren't such good days. I keep forgetting.

It's been a really long time since a boy gave me a gift. And it was the last millenium when a boy actually wrapped a gift for me.

Something crappy has to happen next, right?


At 11:32 PM, Blogger Planethalder said...

Oh, courting is so rare nowadays. Enjoy it - it's wonderful - and try not to analyse it ;-) Planet.

At 12:41 PM, Blogger Irma Vep said...

Yes, of course you're right. I just have this feeling like someone is playing a joke on me. But I am enjoying it.

At 9:25 PM, Blogger Nurton said...

Good blog. Just passing, but had to say that it is not really a bad thing that us boys don't wrap presents anymore. When you think about it wrapping really is very silly. Such a time wasting activity. I'm sure you'd rather we spent the money we save from not wrapping on a more expensive perfume! Maybe I am wrong. Probably.

At 12:58 AM, Blogger Irma Vep said...

Yes, Nurton, you are wrong. Or maybe not in your world. But you would be wrong in my world and at my blog. We do not like statements like "when you think about it wrapping really is very silly," here at "Budapest and the Rest." Did you not notice that this is a Decadent's blog?

Wrapping is great for a lot of different reasons, and I will enumerate them for you:

1. the idea of surprise, mystery. We do everything we can to squash and pry open mystery,,'s nice to do a little in the way of creating it.

2. when I see a wrapped present, I think, "this person really took time." And someone's time is more valuable and touching to me than whatever could be inside the wrapping.

3. presentation. If a boy has made the effort to think about presentation, I think that he's probably going to think about presentation in other less mundane matters,..namely lovemaking.

4. the child-like joy of unwrapping! How joyous, how fun tearing the paper-- taking something beautiful and pristine and tearing it open in a fever of suspense and anticipation!

5. the opportunity to say something with the choice of paper/ribbon. It's a blank canvas. And so an opportunity. You say that wrapping is a waste-- I say it's a wasted opportunity for expression NOT to wrap.

If you are dating a woman who cares more about how much money you spent on a perfume for her, than the content and thought that went into the gift,..well, that's OK I guess, but it has nothing to do with who I am and what matters to me. And as this is my blog, my microcosm, my values reign here. Here we love the quirky, we love the strangely beautiful, we love things wrought by one's own hand and from one's heart.

At 7:33 PM, Blogger Nurton said...

Hi, thanks for the reply, I hope I learn something from it.

I like your teritorial and hedonistic approach to your blog. I must say that I also try to take a tyrannical approach to my personnel blog, so I can see where you are coming from.

Anyway, please let me try and defend myself for each of your numerical reasons

1:) I find that not telling somebody what I am going to give them (eg for christmas) normally provides a large enough fog of mystery. The extra 10 seconds while unwrapping rarely thickens this fog.

2.) If I get a present that is really well suited to me I think that the person has really spent time on me. If it is well wrapped I normally think it is from my mum.

3.) I have never thought about wrapping myself from head to foot before lovemaking, but your right it may help a relationship that is lacking excitment!

4.) "Child like joy" - I still wrap presents I give to children, I'm not completly heartless!

5.) I say things in a card, although I have been trying to think of ways to stop sending these, so I may agree with you on this one.

Anyway, thanks for letting me have my mubble. And let me assure you, I am not currently dating a women, so you don't have to worry that I am involved with a selfish person. But thanks for thinking of my best interests.

At 7:47 PM, Blogger Irma Vep said...

No need to defend yourself Nurton! I didn't attack you! I only attack litterers and people who do insensitive, vulgar things to historic buildings.

Thank you for coming by.

At 8:11 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Recently started reading your blog and getting through your past entries. Very nice and well, I have to say that as a 29 year old expat female living in bp I feel in your outlook on life in very much the same way and admire your gusto in your way of presenting it. The "firecrackers in my pants" had me on the floor in stitches and I have to say that for me, as a professional, for some reason I just feel so infantile in bp. Sex, yes! Heck it must be the age. You know it. Strange but really. Does it stop? Running and sports is all that detains frustration... argghhh.
I get that I am attractive and sexy and all the above. Nice intellegent and so forth. but really it's not like I am looking for anything. Just recently some internal sex clock has just gone full THROTTLE. Woah make way!!!! So something fun? Sure but how? WHere? Well, I guess it has to go with something of "when I am looking into something like relationship, then it must be long term." Here? Hell NO!!!!
So I came to a conclusion. We always know that it happens when it happens...and so have fun in the meantime...
I can't quite figure out if it is the extreme LACK of men or really I should reword, that there are ENDLESS amounts of men here, but none that seem to fit in something long term or outside of the bedroom. Hungarian men are wonderful lovers however, commitment and so forth is next to nil.
Present wrapping is fantastic, and Hungarian men love to woo. Be wary of the extent though, short term can be delightful. (should you be wanting something more) Only recently went through a short yet sweet interaction with someone while knowing it would be short and sweet. WOnderful. And great friends. Friendships of course will last forever here, with or without the sexual side...however, I, as a woman have realised, it just ain't on with anything long term. Have no idea if it has anything to do with being American. Think not... Men here are afraid. But as sexual partners they can be very satisfying.
But to answer your question, I think there is no reason to feel that someone is toying with you. He just woos you and would like something exciting I think. But perhaps short term...perhaps...
that's it. will keep reading. and you I hope keep writing.
Nurton, understand the child like approach to giving things. That makes it all the more fun!!!!
I am sure you are cool intellegent etc... but really, no one should rationalise the reason why a present unwrapped is maybe possibly better than one wrapped. poo.


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